How modern methods of courtship are succeeding where the classic ones are failing; don't make these tried-and-true mistakes!
The Old Style of Courtship
There was a time and place in history where courtship consisted of giving, or sacrificing things, to women. This type of courtship would often entail buying material gifts for women such as flowers or chocolate, and in some cases, creating poems, guarding (quite literally watching over a woman to make sure she's safe), or creating music for a woman. While many of these practices are still effective at expressing affection for a woman, and many will garner a positive reaction from certain women, they're far less effective and socially sound in the modern era. In fact, some women may interpret men giving such gifts, or performing such acts, as creepy or obsessive.
The reason for such an apprehension of seemingly positive behavior is that women are far more independent than they once were. In the past, these signs of courtship represented a man's willingness to take care of a woman. More and more women scoff at the notion they need a man to take care of them, and these actions appear patronizing to many. This is not to say any of that perception regarding the old style of courtship is accurate. It's not, and in only a few cases, the man is actually creepy or obsessive. It's certainly the case that a man can invest too much into a woman with whom his and her relationship is weak at best; nonetheless, a well-intentioned man will find success with these strategies with women who appreciate and prefer the special treatment afforded to them by classical standards.
The New Style of Courtship
But how does a modern man account for the modern woman, who may find such a style of courtship distasteful? The answer is to employ the new method of courtship, which incorporates aspects of the type of behavior modern women appreciate, while not betraying the old style. The new style is more overt and convenient; it incorporates expressions of affection designed to gauge interest and potential for a relationship before grand acts of romance. For example, a man under the new style of courtship would not do anything for a woman he's interested in besides give her the same treatment he affords everyone else; he will treat her as an equal and show respect, and to the very furthest extent possible, act friendly towards her (but not too friendly).
The man will simply approach the woman one day, and ask her out in a manner that does not suggest he's particularly invested. This may sound counter-productive given the fact he's trying to get her to invest in him insofar as receiving a date and responses to his texts/phone calls, but it's actually a way to show the woman that she doesn't have to fear rejecting him. She will feel safer going on a date with the man knowing she can opt out any time, and knowing he won't be offended is she says no signifies to her that both her opinion and dignity are being respected. Once a woman recognizes that she is being treated as an equal, a man can begin to invest more and more into a relationship with her by precipitously introducing an escalating series of romantic gestures. The old still works, it just needs to be delayed a little, so don't ask a girl you barely know to a date with a hand full of flowers and chocolates, or with some grand gesture of love. It will likely lead to the exact opposite reaction one desired.
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